Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Appreciation is the key

We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.

People rarely tend to recognize and take the time to realize what they DO have in life.  Men for example tend to forget what God has BLESSED them with when they have found a good woman. Men tend to think that women LOVE washing their dirty laundry or spending hours watching a movie based on drug induced fantasies such as Trainspotting.

Hey guys, here's something you don't know..........WOMEN DON"T LIKE DOING THESE THINGS!!!!! Women like to have a CLEAN abode and therefore are forced to pick up your clothing or footwear that you leave in the entryway after they have just tidied up! Women don't CHOOSE to spend their evenings watching these crappy movies, HELLO!!! They want to spend TIME with you!!!!!! 

When do men take the time to clean up after themselves? Oh of course, when the woman asks them to!! I want to see a man sit with his wife while she is getting her hair and nails done. Of course he won't enjoy it, but that's what you do when you want to spend TIME with your BETTER half! 

Guys, here is another secret you may not know.........THE BATHROOMS DO NOT MAGICALLY CLEAN THEMSELVES!!!! Take time to surprise your other half and clean it once in a while! Especially when the floor plan consists of more than one bathroom!  I don't know about other females, but I do not enjoy scrubbing toilets and bathroom tiles when I get QUIET time. I would prefer to sit down and BREATHE!

So, please take the time to thank your woman! Not on Mother's Day, not Valentine's Day, not any other holiday. EVERYDAY!!!!!

For my female friends out there, please pass this on to any "gentlemen" you may know. You might just save their life.....Enjoy! :)

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

5 years ago I expected......

I love this question. many things can run through one's mind when asked this. 5 years ago I was living in a 2 bedroom apt. at Intervale Ave, The Bronx. It was just me, my husband and our 4 month old daughter. We were new parents, struggling to understand the infant mind. Today we are still struggling to understand the infant mind, as well as a 5 year old and a 3 year old mind.

5 years ago, we were not thinking about family size, houses, or living in a completely different state. My kids were going to be from the SOUTH BRONX. Wrong, my kids are now Southerners. My daughter has even developed the Southern accent. One of her favorite phrases are "I'm (insert some words here) like a sinner in church. Granted she has adopted that from The Princess and The Frog movie, but Southern still.

Actually 5 years ago, I was also not expecting to be pregnant with my second child a few months later! We had gone through a miscarriage at 5 months pregnant a few months before getting pregnant with our daughter, so having another pregnancy so soon after my daughter was born was AMAZING! Our family was indeed growing!

 While on vacation to Florida, my husband and I decided this was where we wanted to establish and raise our family. We loved the environment and thought what better place to raise a family than the Sunshine State and home of the HAPPIEST PLACE ON EARTH! 

Now, I sit here writing about my beautiful family. My husband has a great job (with a normal schedule), my 5 year old daughter is getting ready to graduate pre-k and just walked in with a dress, shades, and a purse, while RuPaul's Supermodel playing in the background (her barbie doll's accessory), my 3 year old, who will be 4 in a few weeks (God willing) is wearing swimming goggles pretending to be Dinkie from The Littles cartoon and my 3 week old almost month old is napping in the middle of the living room like he owns the place. And me? Well, I'm happy with the way everything is.

5 years ago, did I imagine this? Definitely not. Could it get better? Maybe, can we win the lottery perhaps :) , but I sure love the way my love has changed and grown in these 5 years that have gone by.  I couldn't feel any more blessed than what I feel at the moment.......Lottery....LOL Joking joking :)

Friday, April 15, 2011

Married women need to be flirted with too

So yes I am married and have been married for the past 6 years. But some people assume that just because a woman is married they don't need to be told how attractive they are.  The truth....I love to be told I'm attractive! Husbands seem to get pretty comfortable in marriages and usually forget to compliment their ladies unless they are given a HUGE hint by said lady. Such as " Do I look pretty?" What they get in response is usually something to the effect of " Yes" And that's the end of the conversation.

Now single women or women that are not married may think "What's wrong with that? He complimented you." Well, the truth is after you have been married for a while and not feeling butterflies in your stomach or feeling that "new" relationship feeling, you tend to become stuck in a rut and long for that attention.  JUST BECAUSE YOU HAVE BEEN IN A LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP, DOES NOT MEAN YOU DO NOT NEED TO FEEL PRETTY.

Today, while at Walmart, I was complimented and had men checking me out. I felt FABULOUS! This mother of 3 actually looked pretty and was able to get attention while wearing a baseball cap, jeans, sunglasses, button down shirt, and flip flops. WHAT? You mean I didn't have to ask anyone or actually get made up!?

To men reading this, take a hint, PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR LADY!!!! Giving your lady some attention, will go a LONG way! She does clean, cook, and do your laundry after all. AND she does it for FREE. You don't want to compliment her, then pay her!

Anyhoo......I just want to say, I feel AWESOME!!!!!!

Thursday, April 14, 2011

Nobody requested this, Just needed to let you know

“Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." ~ Christopher Robin to Pooh

I think that quote sums it up perfectly.  I want to dedicate this blog to my friends, old and new alike whose ears or should I say EYES have been drying up and falling off reading my emails or my statuses, trying to comfort me.

People that know me, know that I do put up walls in order to keep myself from getting hurt and sometimes those walls do cave in. They also know these walls are there for legitimate reasons. When these walls collapse and people are able to destroy pieces of me, my friends are always there to make me feel a little better.

Thank you, dear friends, for listening to my crazy rants when I need to vent and for listening to my insecurities.  Trust me, they exist because I have allowed myself to be brought down by people that shouldn't matter to me.  Or in recent cases, by people that should be lifting me up and not bringing me down. Oh well.....happens to the best of us, I guess.

I put up that quote, because in the worst of my moments, you guys turn into Christopher Robin to my Pooh. The past 2 days have been tough on me and I want to thank you guys again for being my leaning posts when I'm about to fall.

Again guys, I love you and I will try to be the prettiest, sassiest, sexiest, best mother and female I can be!

Sometimes you put walls up not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down.

So on that note, those who have not moved to Florida as of guys need to move asap! LOL

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Motherhood and its effects

What has motherhood taught me? Growing up playing with babydolls, a young girl envisions a child that eats when told to do so and sleeps when laid down. Well, to those who do not have children, time for a reality check, REAL children do not eat when you shove a spoon in their mouth and contrary to popular belief, when they are placed on their backs on their beds, their eyes do not instinctively close.  Real children will try to shove their spoon into YOUR mouth and will give you a gym workout while struggling to let you put them to sleep.

Motherhood has taught me that there is no way to be THE PERFECT MOTHER. The only way to be a "perfect" mother is to raise your kids the way YOU feel is correct. Not the way your mom, mother-in-law, or your other relatives may feel is the proper way. You have to do what you feel is proper, even if it goes against the popular advice in your family or circle of friends. Now, if it's against the LAW, then it probably is not the right thing to do :)

Motherhood has taught me that children will bring out the best in your personality as well as the worst. You will scream even though you swear you will NEVER do that. You may not scream in front of your child, but trust me you will scream. Not even the most patient of people will be patient when they have children. Kids will do that to you. It's normal.

At the end of the day however, the good times outweigh the bad. When you see the love in those little eyes that tell you that you are important to at least that one person, it's magical. Knowing that you are shaping that child's life and that you are responsible for creating and forming a better world through that child, it makes all the stress worthwhile. You will feel a love that you never thought imaginable. It's weird. It tugs you and takes all your energy, but you will realize it's the greatest love of all.

Motherhood has taught me........TRUE LOVE. <3

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

My secret bestest friend in the whole world.....

Again, I repeat... My secret bestest friend in the whole world....., no, not my husband, though he follows close behind. LOL It is my wonderful friend from High School. We will call her Chainsaw :).....She will appreciate this. See...she is terrified of chainsaws! I found this out at HHN one year. Anyhoo, I adore this chick. She is the most understanding person I know, though sometimes she tries to bring out the best in me.....which I hate. See......I like the worst in me!  My husband loves her, my kids adore her, I would marry her! HAHAHA!!!!  I love this girl so much, that I have chosen to have her and her fiancee ( A JETS fan-BOOOO!!!), the Godparents to my third child. This first blog topic was actually her suggestion. No, I'm not her stalker! :) She wanted to know how much I love her! So.......yup CHAINSAW, I LOVE YOU!!!!! We ALL love you!!!!!!!! Enjoy!!!!!